Sometimes dealing with Alex is like talking to my Grandmother in her Nursing home, each day brings a new pain or sickness that needs to be discussed in length and complained about until I just cant take it anymore. Ive gone back and done the math, Alex has been here 67 days so far. He has had something "wrong" with him at least 27 of those days (these are just the ones Ive documented, I know I missed some). It has ranged from his knee hurting, eye hurting, ear hurting, stomach hurting, throat hurting, ankle hurting and my all time favorite his LIPS are burning. Back at teacher conferences I had talked with his teacher and he hadn't been complaining of any of these things there, however that is no longer the case. Last week he told me the nurse gave him ice for his burning lip and that helped SO much, cough cough. On Sunday he fell on the playground and began immediately complaining his ankle hurt, complete with limping....on alternating legs. Mind you he has been running around outside when he doesn't know Im watching and these pains come up randomly throughout the day, but not when he is busy doing something. Today I got a call from the school nurse that he was in the nurses office with "knee" pain. Let me start by saying I was already irritated with this Nurse when she said, "Is this mom?" and I said "Yes." and she felt the need to clarify, "FOSTER mom". Yes I am foster mom, does it really make a difference right now? You are trying to reach me, you know my relationship to him, he is probably right there in the office, what is the point of pointing out Im foster mom??! Grrr.....anyway when she said he was in there with knee pain and had he ben telling me about this. I explained to her that he had fallen at the park and said his ankle had hurt, but that there was no swelling and he was running around on it fine when he wanted to. I also explained that there had been frequent issues of aches and pains since he got there. She told me that his teacher had informed her that I had explained this, BUT she thinks it is probably growing pains and wanted to make sure he was getting enough sleep and calcium??!!! UM seriously lady, you have NO clue what is going on....maybe I missed the class on lips burning indicating growth spurts? I reiterated that I believe it is an attention issue and that we are trying to balance giving him attention yet also explaining to him that making up injuries is not the way to get attention and that it makes it difficult for people to trust him and know when he is really hurting. She promptly told me that he is the second child to come in today with these growth issues so she just wanted to let me know and hung up.
Why is it so irritating dealing with the "professionals" who should get it?