I listened to a great interview with Bryan Post that was taking place during an Online Training Summit put on by Full Potential Parenting, there are speakers all week so if you haven't yet go register! It really hit home when Bryan was talking about letting out children feel what they feel, that when we suppress their feelings and suppress their attitudes what we get is the behaviors. When Matthew got home from school he almost immediately through a tantrum about not being able to get on the Ipad. He is not allowed to play electronics during the week, so this isn't anything new. After being refreshed by the interview this morning I was able to stay calm, validate what Matthew was feeling and redirect him to getting something to eat so his brain could think. We sat at the table together and really connected once he calmed down. Win-Win, thank you Bryan Post! I would love to get his DVD/Audio series for Parents but at almost $300 it seems a little out of my price range right now.
Matthew and I just finished a great game of Battleship, playing games is something I don't usually enjoy doing with Matthew. I'm hyper-vigilant waiting for him to have a meltdown anytime he thinks he is losing, stuck in my own PTSD from all of the major rages and violent meltdowns we have been through that have been triggered from playing games with him. Today was our first time playing Battleship, he had never played before, meaning I had to teach him the game, another trigger. Mathew doesn't like to listen to people explain or teach him things, see....he already knows it ALL :) Then when it turns out he doesn't know it all and he is not as good at things as people who have been doing them and practicing them another meltdown begins. You know what he said when he lost the game as we were cleaning up, "Hey Mom, I didn't even get upset I lost!". You are so right my boy, you are awesome, I know how hard that is for you and you totally rocked it!!